It is the backbone of our person and defines not who we are, but how we feel. When we feel inadequate, passed over, patronized, or ignored, of course we will feel bad. It’s the nature of the beast. We need to handle these issues immediately, and I’ll tell you why.
Stuff like this can eat your soul. You might hit the replay button going over slights again and again. Not good. Been there, done that myself. No more. It’s a one-way street to misery and self-pity. SEIZE THE DAY. REVISE YOUR ATTITUDE, AND PUSH THE REPLAY BUTTON OVER THE CLIFF.
This is real life, unintentionally or not, young and old clash in a million ways. In my greener days I was no sweetheart myself, often feeling superior to older others. I never appreciated that one day I would be on the receiving end. Now I am. OUCH!
It’s how we handle these situations that will define our maturity. I can only tell you what helped me. First, I realized I was being a bit of a drama queen and a little over sensitive. In light of the constant barrage of new stuff, sometimes my confidence gets shaky.
I think we experience these problems in mixed age groups or among family members. My Story: I bought a five speed bike. I love fast . I had two falls, nothing broke, but I had beautiful blue bruises.
When my younger son kindly asked me to give up my five speed bike or consider wearing body armor, I was, at first, miffed. Then in all sincerity, when my daughter suggested a three wheel bike, I snorted like a bull. Then I thought about it. Grow up, Lu, so my green hornet sits in my garage. I will investigate the three wheeler with a basket. Look for me on the way to Jewel, a trend setter.
In mixed company, it’s the eye rollers and dead fish stares that stab our psyches. My particular peeve is people who do not even look at us. We want to be acknowledged and we want to be taken seriously. After a few unpleasant experiences, I determined to assert myself. Weird as it sounds, I changed my attitude. Pouting is not an option. Complaining is worse. I thought, “How can I respond?”
First, I use the significant pause. I say nothing and just eyeball the individual. Then I wait a bit. That often works. Secondly, if it’s worth it, I quietly repeat the thought.
Dealing with snotty remarks, I want to reply, “Nicely said….” But sarcasm lowers our standards. I smile and let it go, and I notice the world still goes on. Finally, most importantly, I WORK AT LETTING IT GO FOREVER. I put myself in a happier place.
JUST BLAST THE STEREOTYPICAL TYPE CASTING OF OTHERS (it’s worth repeating) AND DO YOUR THING, SAFELY, OF COURSE.